I disagree with – 7 Ways People Know You Aren’t Being Authentic | Inc.com

http://www.inc.com/kevin-daum/7-ways-people-know-you-aren-t-being-authentic.html

People can tell when you aren’t being real. Experts including Jack Canfield and Shawne Duperon explain how to check yourself against these tell-tale signs.

Source: 7 Ways People Know You Aren’t Being Authentic | Inc.com

 


I have to disagree with 1 and 5. I don’t see those taking away from someone’s authenticity.

I see those more as personality traits than whether a person is authentic or not.

I believe a person can truly be authentic about their grudge against someone and I also believe that being a perfectionist can be an authentic part of someone’s personality. Not allowing a person to be their true authentic self, if that is part of their personality (even if it is a disorder) would seem to go against what this article is trying to encourage.

People truly, authentically have personality traits (some could be disorders, depending on there severity) that lend themselves to holding grudges or being a perfectionist. I also do not feel that taking care of yourself takes away from someone’s authenticity. Just because someone is struggling with taking care of themselves does not mean they are not authentic.

I will somewhat agree on the other points but I am a little reluctant on the saying yes all the time point. I think that could be something that a person has learned and doesn’t know how to overcome that. They could be genuine and authentic in their intention and desire to be a yes, even if they are not actually able to follow through. I feel it is important to not apply guilt to someone who is being their authentic self, even if their authentic self happens to be a person that goes against what this guy is suggesting is what an authentic person should be like.

If you are a perfectionist and that is truly who you are then take note and try not to let it side track you from the bigger picture but don’t try to be someone else. Be you. Be authentic.

If you hold grudges and you feel that it is justified and it feels right to you. Just know that it should not interfere with your happiness and peace. If that is who you are and you can live a fulfilled life with that grudge, how can anyone say it is not your authentic self.

If you say yes to everything with the full intention of being the embodiment of that yes then you are being authentic. I would encourage you to consider that you may need to learn boundaries and that it hurts your position as being authentic when you are not able to follow through with the yes so maybe you should consider that sometimes you need to say no and that is ok. A good class on boundaries can help you with this. Try a Cuddle Party, they cover this in their workshop before cuddling.

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To my Mom on Mother’s Day

To my mother.

I know you don’t think so, but I think you are the best mother there is.

I don’t know if I ever told you how much I appreciate you just as you are?

If you had been different or if your life had been different or if my life would have been different I wouldn’t be Who I am today. I appreciate so much that you raised me the way you did. I know some may have thought you to be too hands off or may have criticized you while you were raising me all alone by yourself, before Joe or even/perhaps more especially after Joe. We moved around a lot and I never had friends and school was hard to adjust to every time. I know it was not easy for you and that life was hard for you too. I know and I remember.  I know you wanted more for me and that you wished a different life for me but this is the life I have and I am very happy with it.

I just want you to know that I love you very much and that I am very thankful for who I am and I want you to also know that I would not be this person I am if it were not for you. You imparted to me strength of character and perseverance. kindness, sweetness and understanding of others. You showed me love always.

I wish that you lived closer so that we could see each other more often. I know you still have things you could teach me and share with me. I am sad at times because you and Dad live so far away from me and I don’t get to see you. There are things I often wish were different in my past (like wishing you and Dad had never divorced) but I know that if they were different I would not be who I am and I really like who I am so it makes it hard to really be too disappointed that things were not different. :)

You are the parent I wish that I could have been. I feel I was too strict on mine and often wished I could have been more like you. I have tried many times to be like you but it is really hard to do.

So, on this day that is set aside to honor mothers, i honor you and I want you to know I love you dearly. Even if I don’t call you often and I don’t get to see you as much as I would like to. I really really love you!

I miss you mom. Hugs and kisses!

Happy Mother’s Day!

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Day 13

Day 13 – Today I let Kaitlyn fix the Honda almost entirely by herself. I never touched a wrench to work on that car today.  :)

Fix a young woman’s car and she has a car to drive until it breaks down again. Teach a young women to work on her own car and she will not be subject to shady overpriced mechanics or your availability for the rest of her healthy life. :)

I let her diagnose and find the problem by herself with very few comments. She did it and I knew she could. I am so proud of her. :)

It still needs work but I know she can do it. What a great memory to file away.

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Day 12

Day 12 – Well today I have finally completed our trailer. We now have a 16′ double axle utility trailer complete with new lights and wiring, New pressure treated wood floor, aluminum wheels, New Springs and hangers, new hubs and a shiny new license plate. The final thing done was I put four old tires on it.

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Not the completed picture but close enough for now.

I used the tires that were on the old Ford truck we have sitting in the yard that needs to be parted out (long story… needed a rebuild and machine shop lied about cost so we let them keep the motor.) I took the tires and rims from the truck and the ones for the trailer (they used to be on another scrap vehicle I had for another project. I have too many.) to the tire place and had them remove the tires from all the rims (they needed to switch places) and I put them back on by myself with my feet and a rubber mallet. Total cost to change 7 tires and rims, $30 and a little labor on my part. :)

I am not sure this counts as time bending but that is what my day consisted of. It’s getting hard to think of new things to do. Anyone have any suggestions?

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Day 11

Day 11 – Trimmed my beard a new way. I’ve got a new look. :)

It’s subtle but I no longer have sideburns. I’m trying to accentuate the V of my beard. I think more needs to be done.

 

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Day 10

Day 10 – I tried on my family colors.

My surname is Morris and I am from the Morris clan (somewhere, long ago). I am interested in my heritage but I really don’t know a lot about it. I have tried to discover my origins but I have neither the resources nor the time. I at least know that there is an official Tartan for the Morris Clan.

Since we were at Scarborough fair today it happened that we came across a store selling Kilts. Now I know that they are not absolutely accurate but it is more than I knew before. According to the guy at the store, the modern-day Tartan for the Morris clan is the same as the Buchanan Tartan. Which doesn’t make sense to me really so I did a little digging and sure enough.  I found this on Wiki –
“The Septs (see next paragraph) of Clan Buchanan derive from the first Auselan to use the surname Buchanan, Gilbert, whose father had obtained the Buchanan lands, and his brothers Colman and Methlan, grandson Maurice, and great-grandson Walter.[9]

“Today, sept lists are used by clan societies to recruit new members. Such lists date back to the 19th century, when clan societies and tartan manufacturers attempted to capitalise on the enthusiasm and interest for all things Scottish. Lists were drawn up that linked as many surnames as possible to a particular clan. In this way, individuals without a “clan name” could connect to a Scottish clan and thus feel “entitled” to its tartan.

One modern member of the Lyon Court[who?] has described the attribution of such names to particular clans as sometimes being based upon nothing but imagination, and in others cases upon a single recorded instance of a surname.”

So basically, someone decided at some point that Morris should be under Buchanan. For whatever reason (it remains to be seen by me.)

So I tried on and almost bought the kilt but it was a little on the cheaply made side and I felt that if I was going to buy one that I wanted to get one that was well made and a true representation of my family colors.

Here is what it looked like (the Buchanan, the one I tried on).

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This is what I have discovered is what it should look like, depending on which clan my family descends from (which I have no way of knowing at this time.)

wales_morris.jpg   Morris of Wales  – http://www.scotweb.co.uk/tartan/Morris-of-Wales/50438

Morris_of_Balgonie_Modern_Colours_Pure_New_Wool_11.jpg   For all the Tartan examples for Morris of Balgonie, have a look here – http://www.scotweb.co.uk/tartan/Morris-of-Balgonie/30145

Morris_of_Balgonie_Arisaid_Modern_Colours_Pure_New_Wool_15.jpg   For all the Tartan examples for Morris of Balgonie; Arisaid, have a look here – http://www.scotweb.co.uk/tartan/Morris-of-Balgonie-Arisaid/59240

Morris_of_Balgonie_Hunting_Modern_Colours_Pure_New_Wool_11.jpg  For all the Tartan examples for Morris of Balgonie; Hunting, have a look here – http://www.scotweb.co.uk/tartan/Morris-of-Balgonie-Hunting/59242

Morris_of_Eddergoll_Modern_Colours_Pure_New_Wool_15.jpg    For all the Tartan examples for Morris of Eddergoll, have a look here – http://www.scotweb.co.uk/tartan/Morris-of-Eddergoll/59244

Maybe one of these days I will figure it out. Until then I guess I will get one of each and represent a different Morris clan from a different town each time I wear one, depending on how it suits me that day. lol

Thanks for reading!

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Day 9

Day 9 –  I told the tire guy I was not happy with the tire he wanted to sell me.

I stopped by the used tire place to buy a spare tires for our new to us truck. The guy brought out a tire and kept saying this is a good tire, it will work good for a spare. I didn’t like it and in the past I would have went along with him and accepted the tire (because I didn’t want to make him feel bad and it was just a spare after all). But, somehow I was able to speak up for myself and not accept less than I wanted (yay me!). I made him go back and keep looking until he found one I liked. Now that is a first. :)

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Day 8

Day 8 – A day late. lol

Well, my new experience for today (well actually yesterday) is food poisoning. Yep, I don’t believe I have ever had food poisoning. If I have it wasn’t anything like this. I was in bed for over 30 hours and I am still not back to full strength. Boy that takes a lot out of a person. I though I was going to have to go to the hospital several times (and maybe should have) but I made it through. :)

Just goes to show you that you can not trust what you buy at the stores. This was from a new package of bratwurst and some mac and cheese. Luckily, I was the only one that had any so the rest of the family did not suffer the same fate. They just had to suffer (Lora said i sound like an ogre roaring while getting its throat cut, when I throw up. lol Pretty accurate description. ) through my sickness and baby the big baby. lol

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Day 7

Day 7 – Today is my birthday. :)

Today I ate lunch with a friend at a new (to me) barbecue place and she bought lunch. :)

I drove my truck to Dallas for the first time (that was rather interesting. It is so big, it was interesting trying to find a parking place and turning around. Good grief!)

Helped a friend diagnose some problems. Never found the solution but we found lots of things that were not the problem. :)

I love all of my family and friends. You guys really are special to me. :)

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Day 6

Day 6 – Sat in a massage chair for 15 minutes. I have never done that and wanted to so I did. :)

They are not for me. Not really pleasant and not comfortable. I actually felt more tense at the end than I did before I started.

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